对待爱情婚姻,最突出的两种态度,莫过于“我和他是天造地设的灵魂伴侣”——契合派,以及“爱情婚姻是一场解决问题的旅程”——旅程派。契合派一直以来都令人艳羡,但研究者最近发现,那些所谓的“灵魂伴侣”其实感情很脆弱,反之,那些始终致力于解决问题的旅程派则更容易携手共渡难关。究其原因,是两类人在面对冲突时态度迥异:前者在这时会对自己的爱情婚姻关系感到不满——天造地设的一对怎能忍受有分 The two most prominent attitudes toward love and marriage are “I and he are soul-beating partners” and “fit and faction”, and “Love and marriage are a journey to solve the problem.” Cohesionists have long been enviable, but researchers have recently found that so-called “soul mates” are actually emotionally vulnerable, whereas riders who are always committed to solving problems are more likely to weather the storm. The reason is that two groups have different attitudes in the face of conflict: the former will be dissatisfied with their love and marriage at this time