今天的中国已快速向现代社会迈进,随着改革开放的深入,各种新事物、新现象应运而生。婚恋领域也出现一些“新名词”,如今人们提起“傍肩儿”、“小秘”已心照不宣,对婚外恋的态度已渐趋宽容。但绝大多数人还是难以接受,认为这是对家庭不负责任的表现。的确,“第三者”的存在对家庭或多或少都是一种威胁。有些“第三者”刚开始抱着轻松的态度,不企求取代“第二者”,但时间一长,就会不满于“第一者”脚踏两只船,在两者之 Today, China has rapidly moved toward the modern society. With the deepening of reform and opening up, various new things and new phenomena came into being. Some “new terms” have also appeared in the field of marriage and love. Nowadays people have taken “shoulder to shoulder children” and “secretaries” have been tacitly concerned about their attitude toward extramarital affair. However, the overwhelming majority of people still find it hard to accept that this is an irresponsible performance on the part of the family. Indeed, the existence of “third parties” is more or less a threat to the family. Some “third parties” are beginning to feel relaxed and not seeking to replace the “second one,” but over time, they will be dissatisfied with the “first person” riding two boats in both