孩子任性,并非全都没有意识到自己当时的情绪和行为偏颇,而大都是由于缺乏调节行为的自控力。在情绪、情感与认识不一致时,不能运用自我调节功能抑制强烈的心理倾向。自控力又叫自制、自律能力,它是一种心理调控机制,对于建构和完善个性有着重要价值。理想的人格特征应该是既有自主性、开放性,冲动性,又有内省力、自控力、坚韧性和社会责任心。自律就是自己管理自己,克制不符合行为规范的情感和冲动,约束自己的言行。它是一种善于掌握和支配自己的心理活动和行为的意志品质。自律能力强 Not all of them are aware of their current emotional and behavioral biases, but mostly because of the lack of self-control of regulatory behavior. In the emotional, emotional and cognitive inconsistency, you can not use self-regulating function to suppress the strong psychological tendency. Self-control, also known as self-control, self-discipline ability, it is a kind of psychological regulation mechanism, has an important value for the construction and perfection of personality. The ideal personality traits should be both autonomy, openness, impulsivity, introspection, self-control, tenacity and social responsibility. Self-discipline is their own management, restraint does not meet the norms of emotion and impulse, binding their own words and deeds. It is a good will to master and control their own mental activity and behavior will. Self-discipline ability