在儿童成长中,家庭和教育者是影响儿童成为他自己的那个重要他人。我一直特别强调家长心态与个人成熟度对儿童的影响。问题是,有谁能够生而知之呢?什么是教育?说教?学习与掌握知识?反复进行技能训练?我认为,这些都是教育的组成部分但绝不能体现出教育的核心价值。在我看来,教育最核心的价值就是帮助孩子们能够积极地成为“他自己”。这个成为包含着对社会的积极适应,包含着对自我的明确认知,也包含着对自我的正确控制与 As children grow up, families and educators are the important other influencing children to be themselves. I have always placed special emphasis on the impact of parental psychology and personal maturity on children. The question is, who can understand it? What is education? Preaching? Learning and mastery of knowledge? Repeated skills training? In my opinion, these are all part of education but must not reflect the core values ​​of education. In my opinion, the most central value of education is to help children become “self” actively. This has become a positive adaptation to society, contains a clear understanding of self, but also contains the correct control of self and