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电视剧中,两个女人在吵架,一个义愤填膺:“如果当初不是我帮你介绍这份工作,没准你现在还流落街头。做人不能忘恩负义……”另一个不无委屈:“这些年我也没少报答你,难不成要每天把你的好挂在嘴上、一辈子给你当牛做马?再说当初也不是我逼你的……”立刻换了台,这是我最不喜欢的一种人际关系——施恩者与受恩者的关系,我称它为“最坏关系”。其实,原本应该是一种美好、温暖的关系:一方伸出援手帮助他人,另一方获得帮助脱离困境。却偏偏,这样的关系不太容易把握走向。最后,如电视剧中双方反目成仇的并不少见。可造成这样的后果,有时是因为受恩者忘恩负义,但有时也因为施恩的那一方,太把这样的“恩情”当回事。
TV series, two women in an argument, an indignation: “If it was not for me to introduce you to this job, maybe you are still living on the streets .One can not be ungrateful ... ” the other not without grievance: “all these years No less to repay you, is it hard not to hang your mouth every day, life to give you a cow? Again I was not forced to force you ... ”“ immediately changed to Taiwan, which I most like A kind of interpersonal relationship - the relationship between benefactors and beneficiaries, I call it the ”worst relationship.“ Actually, it should have been a beautiful and warm relationship: one helped out to help others and the other helped get out of the woods. But happens, this relationship is not easy to grasp the trend. Finally, it is not uncommon for both parties to become enemies in the drama. Such consequences may be caused, sometimes because the beneficiaries ungrateful, but sometimes because of the mercy of the party, so too ”kindness" seriously.