现实生活中,父母给孩子们的鼓励、支持和谆谆教导实在太少,而责骂、嘲讽和惩罚的次数却往往很多。有的父母奉行“孩子不打不成器”或者“棒头出孝子”的信条,使一些孩子几乎都在指责和谩骂声中成长;有的孩子还不时地忍受着父母施予的罚站、罚跪或者殴打等体罚。诚然,大人惩罚孩子的目的是为了帮助他们认识自己不当的或者是错误的言行,促使他们立即改正;可是惩罚是压力教育,对孩子来说,其结果往往是压而不服,更何况年幼孩子的心灵是非常柔 In real life, the encouragement, support and molestation taught by parents to the children is too little, while the number of scolding, ridicule and punishment is often quite high. Some parents follow the tenets of “children can not fight or children” or “stick out of their own children” so that some children grow up in accusations and verbal abuse; and some children sometimes endure the punishment given by their parents Station, fine kneeling or assault and other corporal punishment. It is true that the purpose of adults to punish children is to help them recognize their improper or wrong words and deeds, prompting them to correct immediately; but punishment is stress education, for children, the result is often suppressed and not satisfied, not to mention the young children The heart is very soft