著名作家、心理学家毕淑敏曾经讲述过一个这样的故事:某天她替朋友的孩子做心理咨询。这是一个被父母称为“极度叛逆、脾气暴躁”的来访者。孩子来后,便东拉西扯地聊网络、生活中的琐事。在整个过程中,毕淑敏只是简单“嗯,是”地回应,有时点头表示同意。可是经过后来几次这样“简单”的咨询后,孩子就变得懂事了,有耐心了,成绩也提高了。 Bi Shumin, a famous writer and psychologist, once told such a story: one day she did psychological counseling for friends’ children. This is a visitor who parents call “extremely rebellious, grumpy.” After the children came to the east, talking to the network, the trivia of life. Throughout the process, Bi Shumin just simple “ah, yes ” to respond, sometimes nodding in agreement. But after a few such “simple” counseling, the child became sensible, patient, and the grades improved.