壹心理导读:儿童身上有两颗种子,只知其一,不知其二,都无法使他们长成树的模样。第一颗种子——自我控制力心理学的很多研究、包括我们的长期追踪研究发现,无论儿童还是成人,都必须具备自我控制力,也就是克制自己当前想做某件事的动机,而去做另一件更具社会意义的事情的能力。简单地说,自我控制就是要做好 One Psychological Guide: Children have two seeds, only one of them, I do not know the second, can not make them look like trees. The first seed - many studies of self-control psychology, including our long-term follow-up study, found that both children and adults must be self-controlling, that is, to curb their current motivation to do something, Ability to do something more socially meaningful. Simply put, self-control is to be done