一位母亲告诉我,她的男孩上四年级,聪明漂亮,人见人爱,得过“银帆”奖,上过电视,是爷爷奶奶的心尖子,老师喜欢的好学生。夫妻二人生怕孩子骄傲,总是用缺点和不足来提醒他,孩子十分反感,对父母说:“人家都说我好,干吗你们老看我不好?”这位母亲束手无策,问我怎么办。孩子听不得批评,常见的原因有两个。一个是批评听得太多了,造成逆反心理,用拒绝批评的办法来进行自我保护;另一个是表扬听得太多了,造成表扬中毒,再也听不惯批评了。两种孩子都失去了自我。一般人往往认为第二种孩子是自尊心太强,自信得过分,这恐怕不准确。应该说,不许别人批评的孩子日益膨胀 A mother told me that her boy was in the fourth grade. She was clever and beautiful and loved by people. She won the silver prize and went to television. She is a favorite student of grandparents and grandparents. Both husband and wife are afraid of children proud, often with shortcomings and shortcomings to remind him that the child is very offensive, said to his parents: “people say I’m good, why do you always look at me?” "The mother helpless, ask me How to do. Children can not hear criticism, there are two common reasons. One is criticizing too much, causing aversion to psychology, and refusing to criticize for self-protection; the other is to praise too much, to praise for poisoning, and to no longer be accustomed to criticism. Both children lose themselves. Most people often think that the second child is too self-esteem, self-confidence too much, I am afraid inaccurate. It should be said that children are not allowed to criticize the growing expansion