“礼”历来被认为是压抑和禁锢个性的工具 ,遭到猛烈抨击 ,而对其在一定历史条件下的进步作用人们往往视而不见 ;“礼”的形成和存在 ,实际是出于对群体利益的关照 ,情礼冲突的实质是个体对自由的追求和自由在一定历史条件下的有限性的矛盾 ,是社会的整体进步和个体利益必要舍弃之间的“二律背反”。从这一角度说 ,“礼”的价值值得再思考 ,情礼冲突的实质可以再评价。 “Ceremony” has always been regarded as a tool to depress and imprison individuality. It has been severely criticized, but people often turn a blind eye to its progressive role under certain historical conditions. The formation and existence of “courtesy” are actually based on the interests of the group The essence of the conflict of love and courtesy is the contradiction between the individual’s pursuit of freedom and the limited freedom under certain historical conditions and the “antinomy” between the overall progress of society and the necessary abandonment of individual interests. From this perspective, the value of “ceremony” is worth rethinking, and the essence of the ceremony can be re-evaluated.