不知这位妈妈意识到没有,她所谓的“已经放松了对孩子的规定,让孩子有自主性”这样的说法还不成立。读这个故事,我感觉她只是在意识层面这样想,在下意识层面你其实并没有多大的变化,还是原来那位有些焦虑、喜欢苛求的母亲。这位妈妈的内心在管与不管上还充满了冲突,所以只要孩子出现一个不是她预期的行为,就会激发她的焦虑,并由此引发内心的挫败与沮丧。从故事中我们可以看出,这位妈 I do not know this mother did not realize that what she called “has relaxed the provisions of the child, let the children have autonomy ” this argument is not established. Reading this story, I feel she just think on the level of consciousness, in subconscious you did not change much, or the original some anxiety, like demanding mother. The mother’s heart is full of conflict and control, so whenever a child does not behave as she expected, her mother’s anxiety will be aroused and the heart will be frustrated and frustrated. From the story we can see that this mom