去年国庆,我回了一趟老家,参加博士生表姐的结婚典礼。表姐的婚礼摆了88桌,近一千人,我得以见到许多一百年没打过交道的亲戚。不用我喊出姨奶表舅的称呼,对方的热情已经扑面而来。“从上海回来啦?结婚了吗?有对象了吗?怎么还不结婚?在哪儿工作?”面对这种汹涌而来的关心和侵犯,我实在招架无能。 Last year’s National Day, I went back to my hometown to attend the doctoral cousin’s wedding ceremony. Cousin’s wedding put 88 tables, nearly a thousand people, I have seen many hundred years did not deal with the relatives. No need to shout my aunt’s uncle name, the other’s passion has been blowing. “Are you back from Shanghai, get married, have people, not married, where do you work?” "I was really helpless in the face of this raging concern and aggression.