论文部分内容阅读
问:孩子一犯错,我老公就大声斥责孩子。我本着家丑不外扬的心理,屡次劝老公不要这样。但是,他振振有词地说,教育孩子就要理直气壮才行。请问,这种说法对吗?蔡闻答:实际情况并非如此。当家长对孩子大声嚷嚷时,孩子当时的确会被镇住。但当孩子惊骇于家长发怒的样子,心里只想尽快结束这种局面,而不会去想家长责备的内容、去反思自己的过错。若孩子年龄较大,还会对家长产生抵触情绪,从而加剧对立,激化矛盾。若家长能够控制情绪,平心静气地指出孩子的错误,效果会好很
Q: The child made a mistake, my husband loudly scold children. I am in the spirit of the house ugly, repeatedly urged her husband not to do so. However, he vividly said that educating children should be justified. Excuse me, is this true? Cai Wen A: The actual situation is not the case. When parents shout to their children, the children will indeed be stopped. However, when the child is horrified by the parents’ anger, he only wants to put an end to the situation as soon as possible instead of thinking about what parents are reproaching to reflect on their own fault. If the child is older, it will also create resistance to parents, thus exacerbating the opposition and intensifying the contradictions. If parents can control emotions, calmly point out the child’s mistakes, the effect will be very good