当今父母“望子成龙”心切,在教育子女上打下了太多的功利烙印,使家庭教育走进了很多误区,反而妨碍了下一代的健康成长。笔者曾经从事多年基础教育工作,同时也有一个正处在成长阶段的孩子,在此愿将自己所见所思与天下父母共同探讨。误区之一:让孩子延续自己的残梦笔者认识这样一对夫妻,他们因为多种原因,在人生道路上诸事不顺,家境贫寒,经济拮据。但他们从不检讨和反思失败的主观原因,而是把满腔怨气归结为是父母、亲友、社会,妨碍了自己的发展。这对夫妻生了一对聪明伶俐的双胞胎,他俩把所有希望都寄托在两个儿子身上,期盼他俩发奋读书,日后搏个出人头地,光耀门楣,为父母争口恶气。所以夫妻俩对儿子的教育就变成了诉苦。向儿子诉说自己的父母如何窝囊无能,才使自己走上社会一事无成;痛骂世间人心如何叵测,使他们的事业和人生屡屡受挫;指责亲友如何冷酷无情,使得他们得不到必要的扶助,从而失去了成功机遇……在他们的言谈里,世上没有一个好人,叮咛儿子要拼命苦读,拼出一个锦绣前程。两个儿子也很争气,从小学开始就成绩全优,在校从不惹是生非,回家也深居简出,是标准 Today’s parents, “Succeed in Succeed,” are eager to lay too many utilitarian brains on their children so that family education has gone a long way to misunderstandings, thus impeding the healthy growth of the next generation. I have been engaged in many years of basic education, but also has a child who is in the growth stage, in this wish is willing to see what they think and parents together. Misunderstanding one: let the child continue his own residual dream I know such a couple, they for many reasons, all things on the road to life is not smooth, poor family, financial constraints. However, they never review and reflect on the subjective causes of failure, but attributed their grudges to their parents, relatives and friends, and society, which hindered their own development. The couple gave birth to a pair of clever twins who put all their hopes on two sons and look forward to their studious study. In the future, they will make every effort to shine light on the lintel and fight for their parents. So the couple’s son’s education became a complaint. Tell his son how to use his impotence to make his own way into society without any means; how to scold and criticize the world’s hearts and minds so that their cause and life may be repeatedly frustrated; to blame relatives and friends for being ruthless and depriving them of the necessary assistance Lost the chance of success ...... In their speech, there is not a good man in the world, warned his son to study hard, spell out a bright future. Two sons are also very competitive, from the elementary school on the excellent results in the school never make trouble, go home and live in Simplicity, is the standard