很多女人会说,我付出了那么多,怎么遇到的尽是“白眼狼”?有个很资深的心理学家说:付出只是单方面的行为,对方并不一定受用。你给了他在家的待遇吗?待遇是一种发自内心的尊重,而不是你单方面的操心着急,柴米油盐,板起脸的一餐饭。友人丹妮聊起严歌苓的一个访谈,她提到了丈夫的待遇问题:有些女人在家里穿着邋遢,从来无视先生的目光。严说自己在家写作,但是在先生下班时会尽量穿戴整洁,头发梳整齐,神清气爽,让先生看到一个干净清 Many women will say that I paid so much, how do I meet all the “wolf”? A very senior psychologist said: pay only one-sided behavior, the other is not necessarily used. Did you give him treatment at home? Treatment is a heartfelt respect, not your unilateral worry, anxiously, a plate of face meal. When her friend Dani talked about an interview with Yan Geling, she mentioned the treatment of her husband: some women are sloppy at home and have never disregarded Mr.’s eyes. Strictly speaking that he was writing at home, but when the gentleman would try to wear clean and tidy, hair comb neat, refreshed, so that Mr. saw a clean