没有什么能像孩子一样更能让父母倾注自己的爱了,每个家庭对自己的孩子都抱着厚望。父母没甚出息的,期冀孩子胜过自己,为家族为祖先争一口气;父母有能耐的,期冀孩子继承衣钵永葆门庭光耀。于是中国的许多家庭便成了以孩子为中心的家庭,孩子的意愿就是家庭的意愿。《庄子·内篇》里的一个寓言:南方之帚倏与北方之帝忽走访中央之帝混沌。混沌热情地接待了他们。倏与忽商量怎样才能表达谢意,说“人都有七窍借以视、听、吃、呼吸,但混沌偏偏没有,不妨给他凿一个窍。”干得很苦很累,到了第七天,七窍凿成了,可混沌却死了。倏与忽的主观意愿是善良的,做出了艰苦的努力,结果好心办坏事。现在一对夫妇只生一个孩子,爷爷、奶奶、外公、外婆、爸爸、妈妈这些人怜爱感情的宣泄仅有一条通道:爱得专一,爱得深沉,然而,爱多走一步也是误区。 Nothing can make parents like their children more devoted to their own love, each family has high hopes for their children. Parents are not good for the interests of their children over their own, as the ancestors of the family fight breath; parents have the ability to hope that the children inherit the mantle forever glorious. As a result, many Chinese families have become child-centered families, and their wishes are the wishes of their families. A Parable in Zhuangzi’s Internal Piece: The Southern Broom and the Emperor of the North Visited the Central Emperor’s Chaos. Chaos received them warmly.倏 and suddenly discuss how to express gratitude, saying “people have seven orifices to visual, listening, eating, breathing, but the chaos happen to have, may wish to give him a trick.” Too hard and tired, to the seventh day, seven orifices Hewn, chaos is dead. The subjective wishes of 倏 and 忽 are good and make painstaking efforts, resulting in good intentions and bad things. Now a couple has only one child, grandfather, grandmother, grandfather, grandmother, father, mother, these people have only one channel of affectionate catharsis: love is specific, love is deep, however, more love is a misunderstanding.