在中国生活的这些年里,我见到过很多祖父母和父母为独生子女作出巨大牺牲的故事。一次,我和一位出租车司机聊天,很快就发现,他的整个生活都是以外孙为中心的。每天的重中之重,就是接外孙放学,然后准备任何他想吃的东西。这位司机很骄傲,外孙已经是个高大英俊的年轻人了,而他唯一的要求,就是希望孩子好好学习,在学校考出好成绩。很明显,他对孩子溺爱有余,管教不足。在上海,我一次又一次地听到看到这样的故事:祖父母和父母要求孩子在学校考出好成绩,只要把高分拿回来,大人们就时其他问题视而不见。 During these years of life in China, I have seen many grandparents and parents make great sacrifices for their one-child children. Once, I chatted with a taxi driver and soon discovered that his entire life was centered on grandchildren. The most important thing every day is to pick up grandchildren and prepare anything he wants to eat. The driver is very proud, his grandson is already a tall, handsome young man, and his only requirement is that he wants his children to study hard and test their grades at school. Obviously, he spoiled his children, lack of discipline. In Shanghai, I heard time and time again the story of grandparents and parents asking their children to take good grades at school. Just take the high marks and adults turn a blind eye to other problems.