当人们迈入爱情关系时,对伴侣的期望,也即希望伴侣能够在某些方面按照自己的意愿去发展。有许多要求期待,如对婚姻的安全感,对共同关心的问题统一认识等等,不仅是合理的,而且是必要的,伴侣也能在力所能及的范围内改变自己以满足对方的要求。问题是我们不能要求伴侣和自己一样地思考,完全一样地感受,完全一样地举止行动。在现实生活中,有时我们没有意识到有些期待太不现实,故而当这些期待和希望没 When people enter the relationship of love, the expectations of their partners, that is, hope that partners in some ways, according to their own wishes to develop. There are many expectations, such as a sense of security for marriage and a common understanding of issues of common concern, etc. It is not only reasonable but also necessary that a partner can change himself within the limits of his or her ability to meet each other’s requirements. The problem is that we can not ask our partner to think just like himself, feel exactly the same, behave exactly the same. In real life, sometimes we do not realize that some expectations are too unrealistic, so when these expectations and hopes are not