学龄前期或学龄初期的儿童由于意志力发展不完善,自觉性、自制力较差,因而,相互间常常会发生争吵,甚至打斗,而这无疑会引起家长、老师的担忧。社会心理学家曾对这样的孩子调查研究发现,他们在以后的生活中与所谓“乖孩子”相比,有较强的社会适应能力,并能建立良好的人际关系。究其原因,主要还是与“争吵”有关,因为:争吵有利于孩子自我意识的建立。孩子们在争吵时,总是强烈地意识到自己,以自己为中心,努力想实现自己的主张和要求。正是在这种争争吵吵之中,通过辩解、争论、说理,使得孩子不但获取了进取的勇气,充分体验胜利的喜悦,增强了自信,而且还可以使孩子了解生活的艰辛,学会忍 Preschoolers or early school-aged children often develop quarrels or even fight among themselves due to their imperfect, conscious and self-restrained self-control. This undoubtedly raises parents ’and teachers’ worries. Social psychologists have conducted research on such children and found that they have a stronger ability to adapt to society and establish good relationships with their so-called “good children” in later life. The reason is mainly related to “quarrel” because: Quarrel is conducive to the establishment of children’s self-awareness. When children are arguing, they are always strongly aware of themselves and their own as the center, and strive to realize their own ideas and demands. It is in this argument of noisy quarrel that children can not only gain the courage of being enterprising but also fully experience the joy of victory and enhance their self-confidence by excuseing, arguing and reasoning, but also can make children understand the hardships of life and learn to endure