中国有句古话:“家丑不可外扬。”这可以理解为:一家过日子,应该有一个“小团体的荣誉和名誉感”。夫妻之间互视为“自己的人”,贬低配偶,也是有损于自己形象的事。 然而,已婚男女在遇到一些难以忍受的婚姻问题时,在不能很好的自控中就自觉不自觉地将“家丑”外扬出去了。 比如说:妻子发现丈夫有婚外恋行为时,一气之下,便去找丈夫单位的领导告状;在与他人倾诉中,很可能夸大了丈夫的坏毛病,扭曲了他的形象,从而影响 There is an old saying in China: “A housewife can not be exaggerated.” This can be understood as a family having a “sense of honor and reputation for small groups.” Husband and wife each as “their own people,” belittle their spouses, but also detrimental to their own image. However, when married men and women encounter some unbearable marital problems, they can unconsciously raise their “house-clutter” when they can not properly control themselves. For example, when a wife discovers that her husband has an act of extramarital affair, she tries to sue the leader of her husband’s unit. In her talk with others, she may have overstated her husband’s bad habits and distorted his image, thus affecting her