幸福的婚姻需要什么?志同道合还是求同存异?亲密无间还是保持距离?给对方更多的自我空间,同时,也是给自己更多的成长空间,这样的婚姻也许才有更加持久的生命力。结婚前,亲戚朋友都对我说:夫妻过日子,讲究的是志同道合,求同,是婚姻长久维系的基本原则。我和老公云结婚后,也尽量彼此包容,尊重对方。有了不同意见,基本上老公都能做到无条件服从我的意见。我们原本性格、爱好都有天壤之别。他好动,喜欢运动,我好静,几乎不运动;他看到书本就会昏昏欲睡,而我一天不看书就觉得心中空得慌;他喜欢聊天,善言辞,我则是个闷葫芦;他喜欢煲汤、炖菜,我偏爱爆炒、色浓味重;他喜欢串门,我只愿意宅在家;他喜欢一切明艳的色彩,我则只喜欢黑、白、灰、红四色…… What are the needs of a happy marriage? Is there any similarity between the same-mindedness and the sameness? Closeness or distance? More self-space for each other, and more room for growth. Such a marriage may have more lasting vitality. Before marriage, relatives and friends said to me: husband and wife living, stressing that like-minded, same for, is the basic principle of long-term maintenance of marriage. My husband and I married after the cloud, but also try to be tolerant to each other, respect each other. With different opinions, basically my husband can do my part unconditionally. Our original personality, hobbies are different. He is very active, like sports, I am quiet, almost no exercise; he saw the book will be drowsy, and I do not read the day felt heart panic; he likes to chat, kind words, I was a clumsy; He likes soup, stew, I prefer stir-fried, rich color; he likes to hang around, I only want to be home; he likes all bright colors, I only like black, white, gray, red, four colors ...