根据《红楼梦》文本 ,分析了宝钗、黛玉都是真诚的少女 ,黛玉表现为“以直为诚”(性灵之真 ) ,宝钗表现为“以曲为诚”(理性之真 ) ,虽有矛盾 ,但非对立 ,虽有误会 ,更多融合。这是曹雪芹对多姿多彩的人生的肯定 :性格尽管差异很大 ,只要坚守优秀传统文化的“真”、“诚” ,不仅能化解矛盾 ,而且可以成为知己。《红楼梦》描写钗、黛交好 ,寄托了作者建立和谐的人际关系的美好愿望 ,具有深刻的现实意义 According to the text of A Dream of Red Mansions, it analyzes Bao Chai and Dai Yu are both sincere girls. Daiyu shows “taking straight as honesty” (the true and true spirit) and Baochai as “taking song as honesty” (rational truth) Although contradictory, non-opposites, although misunderstood, are more integrated. This is Cao Xueqin’s affirmation of colorful life: Although his personality is very different, as long as his personality is “true” and “sincere” of outstanding traditional culture, his personality can not only resolve conflicts but also become friends. “Dream of Red Mansions” describes the good wishes of the author for establishing a harmonious interpersonal relationship by describing Chai and Dai, and has profound practical significance