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当父母成为扼杀孩子梦想的罪人,将发生怎样的悲剧?浙江学子张建军的经历,可能会给当父母的以警示。张建军从小就梦想当医生,在填高考志愿时,妈妈却执意要他读热门的计算机专业,张建军最后不得不屈服,但因为不是自己的兴趣所在,考上大学后学习压力特别大,毕业后又找不到舒心的工作,还遭遇了一次车祸,因而,他总觉得是父母当初逼他变更志愿,才毁了他的一生。2009年12月,张建军又从浙江建德老家到杭州找工作,母亲为了照顾他,也来到了杭州,2010年元旦,张建军因母亲外出回家做饭晚了,积怨爆发,与母亲发生争执,在盛怒中,“失意者”张建军往母亲肚子上捅了一刀,母亲因腹主动脉、心脏及肝脏破裂,急性大失血而死亡。此事在网上引发强烈的震动,让众多的父母开始反思:有多少父母真正倾听过孩子的梦想,并能帮孩子认真分析实现梦想的种种可能性?而当孩子的梦想与现实利益相冲突的时候,又有多少父母会选择支持孩子坚持梦想的方向?身为父母,有没有打着“我是为你好”的旗号,成为扼杀孩子梦想的杀手?你是想做帮助孩子实现梦想的助推器,还是扼杀孩子梦想的罪人?这是每个父母都应当严肃思考的问题。
What kind of tragedy will happen when parents become criminals who stifle their children’s dreams? The experience of Zhang Jianjun, a Zhejiang student, may give parents a warning. Zhang Jianjun childhood dream of a doctor, fill in the aspirations of the exam, but my mother insisted that he read the popular computer professional, Zhang Jianjun finally had to give in, but because it is not their own interest, especially after the entrance examination to college, after graduation Can not find a comfortable work, but also suffered a car accident, therefore, he always felt that parents forced him to change volunteer, ruining his life. In December 2009, Zhang Jianjun from Zhejiang Jiande home to find work in Hangzhou, the mother in order to take care of him, also came to Hangzhou, New Year’s Day in 2010, Zhang Jianjun went out for dinner because of his mother went home, rancor outburst, dispute with his mother, In the midst of rage, “Frustrated ” Zhang Jianjun stabbed her mother’s stomach, his mother died of abdominal aorta, heart and liver rupture, acute blood loss. This incident triggered a strong online shock and led many parents to reflect on how many parents actually listened to their children’s dreams and helped them to analyze carefully the possibilities of realizing their dreams. When the children’s dreams conflict with the real interests When, how many parents will choose to support their children in the direction of their dreams? As a parent, there is no name “I am for you,” the banner of becoming a killer stifling the child’s dream? Do you want to help children realize their dreams Boosters or stifles children’s dreams? This is a question that every parent should seriously think about.