俄罗斯心理学家库斯洛指出:示弱,其主旨就是自暴缺陷和弱项。但示弱并不是软弱、退缩,而是一种礼让和宽容,是一种人生的智慧和清醒。坦然的人,是不会也不应该把心理能量放在掩饰、防御、维护脆弱的自尊心上,他们会更有亲和力和创造力,也更容易接纳和宽容别人。从更深层的心理学意义上来讲,示弱是尊重和正视自己的一种心理力量;正像库斯洛所说:“示弱和坦然,才是自我心理最强的防御。”有一次林肯在台上演说,有人在台 Russian psychologist Kusi Luo pointed out: weakness, its main thrust is self-defeating defects and weaknesses. However, weakness is not weakness, withdrawal, but a kind of comity and tolerance, is a kind of wisdom and sober life. Calm people will not and should not put psychological energy on disguise, defense, and protection of vulnerable self-esteem, they will be more affinity and creativity, but also easier to accept and tolerate others. From a deeper psychological point of view, showing weakness is a psychological force that respects and faces oneself; just as Kuslow puts it: “Being weak and calm is the strongest self-defense.” Once Lincoln On the stage, someone was on stage