当你听到别人称赞你的孩子时,你该怎么回答? “是的,他蛮棒的……”如果这么说的话,你会觉得有点自夸,所以你就回答说:“哪里,我那孩子不行!”或“唉!他功课糟透了……”等等。你如果这么说,会打击到你孩子的自信心,使他自暴自弃,而真的变成笨孩子或坏孩子。举个实例:曾经有位家长来和我探讨过他那五年级的孩子成绩不好的问题,后来我就是找那个学生来谈话,令我吃惊的是,那孩子开口闭口都是:“反正我记忆力不好”,我觉得很奇怪,便去问他的母亲,原来是他母亲常在别人面前自谦说这孩子记忆力不好。 What do you answer when you hear someone praise your child? “Yes, he’s awesome ...” If you say that, you will feel a little boast, so you answer, “Where’s my kid No! ”Or“ Alas, he did his homework ... ”and so on. If you say that, it will hit your child’s self-confidence, make him give up on themselves, but really become stupid or bad boy. For example, once a parent came to discuss with me the problem of poor grades in his fifth grade, and later I was looking for the student to talk to him. To my surprise, the boy said, “Anyway, I Bad memory ”, I feel very strange, then went to ask his mother, turned out to be his mother often modest in front of others that the child’s memory is not good.