父母“望子成龙”的心态并非毫不动摇,始终如一,而是在不知不觉中悄悄地发生着变化,呈现出这样一个规律:从幼儿园到小学,再到中学,期望值逐渐减低,而失望情绪逐渐增加。调查反映,在幼儿阶段,家长期望孩子上大学、成为专门人才的在80%以上,到了初中,这个比率下降到30%左右。我们曾向一所普通初中一年级的家长了解其对孩子的“期望”情况。有的家长写道:“原来对他抱有很高的期望,现在只好走着瞧了。”有的家长直截了当地写道:“连个区重点也没考上,我已经失望了。” 家长失望情绪逐渐增加,可能有以下几种: 其一,期望值片面许多家长只把“期望”集中在孩子的学习成绩上。一旦成绩不佳,责备、训斥日益增多,表扬、鼓励越来越少。孩子很难有愉快的心理体验,“厌学”情绪与家长的“失望”情绪往往同步发展。其二,过早的职业“定向” 有的家长出于一厢情愿,从小给孩子定了未来的 The mentality of the parents “Succeed in Succeeding” is not unwavering and unwavering, but changes unknowingly quietly, showing the law that from preschool to elementary school to middle school, the expectation gradually decreases and disappointment Emotions gradually increased. The survey shows that in the early childhood stage, parents expect their children to go to college and become specialists in more than 80%. When they reach junior high school, the ratio drops to about 30%. We have known to parents of a first-year ordinary middle school about their “expectations” of their children. Some parents wrote: “I had high expectations of the original, and now had no choice but to see it. ” Some parents bluntly wrote: “I did not even focus on a district, I have been disappointed . ”Parents disappointment gradually increased, there may be the following: First, one-sided expectations Many parents only “ expectations ”focused on the child’s academic performance. Once the poor grades, blame, reprimanded more and more praise, encourage less and less. It is difficult for children to have a pleasant psychological experience, and the emotions of “tired of learning” and the disappointments of parents often develop in parallel. Second, premature occupation “orientation ” Some parents out of wishful thinking, childhood to the children set the future