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美国著名心理学家及人际关系学家大卫·伯恩斯(Darid D Burms)在他的《成功与失败》一书中指出,成功者与失败者有一条分水岭,那就是:成功者做起事来总是“今日事,今日毕。”而失败者做起事来总是“拖拖拉拉,把今天该完成的事推向明天。”作家曾对一千名大学生做过一项调查,发现几乎有一半学生喜欢在考试前临时抱佛脚,写论文也是拖到交卷前两星期才动笔。虽然拖宕的原因不一,但其心理状态则是相同的——把希望寄托在明天。 也许你在缴付帐款、写信或约会某个人时,也曾一拖再拖。无论是生活琐事或是重要事情,拖下去总不是解决问题的办法,并且还会产生新问题,不管你是拖宕成性也好,暂时拖宕不前也好,以下五项秘决能使你改弦易辙,走出失败者道路的阴影。
In his book Success and Failure, Darid D Burms, a famous American psychologist and interpersonal scientist, points out that there is a watershed between winners and losers: Things are always “Today’s Today, Today Completes.” And the losers always do something to “drag on to bring what’s done today to tomorrow.” The writer had conducted a survey of a thousand undergraduates, Found that almost half of students like to hold their feet before the exam, writing essay is also dragged two weeks before the handing in. Although there are different reasons for the delay, the psychological state is the same - put hope on tomorrow. Maybe you have to delay the process of paying your account, writing a letter, or dating someone. No matter trifles or important things in life, dragging is not always a solution to the problem, and new problems will arise. Whether you drag down or wait for a while, the following five secrets enable You change the way, out of the shadows of the loser path.