其实争吵就是让夫妻用一种最直接的方式找到彼此特有的互动模式。争吵就是夫妻过招,有的招式让人舒服,有的招式让人痛苦。舒服久了就让人更亲密,痛苦久了就让人渐渐疏离了。争吵也是夫妻间的一种沟通方式,关键是我们学会如何争吵。破坏性的争吵会损害夫妻关系,损害自己的利益。积极的争吵不但不会破坏感情,还会让夫妻变得越来越亲密。吵架还分等级,细分有小事小吵,小事大吵, In fact, argument is to allow couples to find one another the most direct way to interact with each other. Quarrel is the couple over trick, some moves make people comfortable, and some moves painful. Comfortable for a while to make people more intimate, painful for a long time people gradually estranged. Quarrel is also a way of communication between husband and wife, the key is that we learn how to quarrel. Destructive quarrels can damage the relationship between husband and wife and damage their own interests. A positive quarrel not only does not undermine feelings, but also makes couples become more and more intimate. Quarrel is also sub-level, sub-small sub-quarrel, trivial quarrel,