研究家庭教育的专家提出了一些对子女有伤害的用语,而这些用语却是家庭教育中父母常常对子女说的。表扬中夹杂批评——“你早就应该这样做才对”有一个学龄前的孩子,经过多次努力,终于学会了系鞋带,他自豪地向父亲炫耀。父亲说:“好得很!但是,你早该学会了。”这种在表扬中夹杂批评的话往往使成长中的孩子不自信。原因是赞赏孩子的时候如果夹杂批评,孩子往往把注意力集中在批评的部分。即使是建议性的批评,如果提出的时间不恰当,也会带来反效果。 Experts who study home education have put forward a few words that harm their children, but these terms are often used by parents in family education to say to their children. Praise the inclusion of criticism - “You should have done this right ” There is a preschool child, after many efforts, and finally learned to tie the shoelace, he proudly show off to his father. My father said: “Very good! However, you should have learned. ” This compliment of praise in the often tended to grow children are not confident. The reason is that when children are criticized for complimenting children, children tend to focus on the critical part. Even if it is a suggestion of criticism, it would be counter-productive if the proposed time is not appropriate.